You're the one with memory problems and is impossible to communicate with. That was the reason, I said "I can't possibly have a conversation with you." I'm sorry that it hurt you, but it's the truth. You were already screaming at me by the door to my house, and then again next to my car when I got the baby's backpack. You also yelled at me that I never remember the order of events. Instead you told me it's impossible to communicate with me because I never remember anything. I thought you said we MIGHT be putting the baby into childcare in December, and that the babysitter MIGHT be going back to teaching. I simply wanted to correct you that I didn't know the babysitter was leaving in November. I was trying to have a reasonable conversation. Old EZ would have written (and still actually wants to, but refrains from the urge) I think therapist would probably tell you the details of remembrance probably don't matter and aren't worth debating and that the real message was about his schedule change which I couldn't even get out" This is why it's so hard to communicate to you because I can't even get my statements out at all before you start questioning the version of events I'm recanting. I know you think it's impossible to have a conversation with me but I want to say for the record that this started with me saying I wanted to communicate some schedule changes and beginning with, "as you know he's going to day care in the fall." And you immediately interrupted me and said didn't know.
After I drove home, I received the following text. We all know this sort of conversation on this board. Unfortunately, everything I said was greeted with an admonishment. Listening to the recording I was calm and choosing my words wisely. I simply wanted to point out that my recollection of the conversation was different than what she was telling me. Previously she said that the babysitter was CONSIDERING going back to work as a substitute teacher, but that it wasn't finalized yet. Too late for that now.ģ It's simply not what she told me before. This way we don't have to move the baby from one day care to another again. So it would be good if this central location was decided upon at least once I put an offer in. This is problematic for several reasons.ġ Once our existing babysitter is gone, I intend to transition to a 50/50 split, so I want the daycare to be central between us.Ģ I'm planning to buy a home within the next six months. However, while I was away on vacation she booked a daycare center close to her house. (Gas lighting) Originally she told me we would be switching to child care in December, and that, "Nothing was set in stone." When I tried to remind her of that, I was completely shot down, and made to question my own memory of the events. In reality, she left things very open ended in the previous conversation. She was especially mad at me because she was convinced I never remember anything.
So I recorded a major dysregulation from last week which involved moving our baby to daycare in November. You can hear her flipping out and not letting me get a word in edgewise. You can hear me trying to stay calm, and redirect the conversation to the topic at hand.
However, last week I actually remembered to do the recording. I usually forget because I have so much anxiety when I'm arriving to interact with her. My parents have been pushing me to record the interactions with my ExGFwBPD, lately. The goal is to keep written communication short, to the point, and keep triggering emotional sentiment out of the statements you share with the high conflict personality on the other side of it. OK, so a BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm.
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